Insecurity is something that is very much impacted by the way we communicate today. When people don’t message you back or respond to you, it can be very easy to struggle with worry and insecurity as a result. In this episode, I discuss why this happens and offer some ideas that might help.
Our Brains:
Try to understand meaning therefore the status of the relationship
To Predict events
Considerations:
Not everyone is like you. Don’t use same rules to evaluate them
You have done it before, probably
Some people don’t reach out
How much time do you waste thinking about why people don’t respond back?
Reasons
Ignore you because Procrastination
Ignore you because Perfectionism
Ignore you because Exhausted
Ignore you because Not in the Mood
Ignore you because ignoring everyone
Ignore you because afraid of rejection
Ignore you because Busy
Ignore you because scarcity and status (playing games)
Ignore you because embarrassed or afraid
Ignore you because they are arseholes
Ignore you because not a priority
Ignore you because make you feel bad
Ignore you because you annoy them
Don’t check messages and then too late to respond
Unconsciously ignore you
Suggestions:
Follow up and Nice until they give you a clear understanding
Learn to let go of people that don’t prioritise you (flakiness, response, reach out)
Laugh at the idea of trying to make you feel bad
Feedback needed in terms of how you deal with it.
Don’t overthink it.
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