OS2 E32: The Difference between Niceness and Kindness

This episode is on the same topic of a blog post I wrote a few years ago where I explore the difference between niceness and kindness!

https://blog.owenfitzpatrick.com/difference-nice-kind/

Nice is defined as “pleasing; agreeable; delightful”

Being nice is when you are polite to people and treat people well.

Impression… make them feel good. Temporary sometimes permanent

Too nice… too easy. No backbone. Too selfless. Not strong.

Kind is defined as “having, showing, or proceeding from benevolence.”

When you care about people and show you care.

Cruel treat people badly   

Kind treat people with care

Cruel to be kind often to give them the message

Kind to be cruel Not really..

Sometimes you can be kind to someone even though you aren’t nice to them and you can certainly be nice to someone but also be unkind.

CHARACTER VS PERSONALITY

Easy to be nice. Polite… smile.

Being kind can’t be learned in a training… can only be about caring

Sometimes niceness is about ends result. Kindness is the end result.

Customer service need more kindness (both important)

KINDNESS

Compassion: feeling or showing sympathy and concern for others.

Generosity: (of a person) showing a readiness to give more of something, than is necessary or expected.

Appreciation: recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.

Gratitude: the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

Cornering: rooting for someone to win. Supporting them.

Being Nice and Kind to yourself

Do you tell yourself what you want to hear

Do you tell yourself what you need to hear

Do you treat yourself well

SELF AWARENESS

How are you being nice to people?

How are you being kind to people?

 

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