Modal Operators: Words Of Possibility And Necessity
– Use “I can, I could, I would” for self-motivation and positive influence.
– Shift from “should” to “could” and “can’t” to “won’t” for empowerment.
– Language choice is key in motivation and empowerment.
Identity Labels
– Focus on appreciating effort and reinforcing behaviors, not fixed labels.
– Use identity labels that align with desired behaviors for consistent action.
Relevancy Triggers
– Be mindful of pronoun impact: “you” for attention, “I” for ownership.
– Use emotive, familiar, and concrete language for engagement and retention.
Asking Questions
– Asking for advice shows intelligence and values others’ insights.
– Follow-up questions increase likability and trust by showing interest.
John & Julie Gottmans’ Study On Relationships
– Key practices: appreciate feelings, start gently, ask for follow-ups, and take responsibility.
– Curiosity, empathy, and understanding are crucial for deep connections.
Experts Mentioned:
Richard Bandler: Co-founder of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP)
Jonah Berger: Professor and best-selling author
John & Julie Gottman: World-renowned researchers and clinical psychologists
James Clear: Author of “Atomic Habits”
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