- Boundaries are discussed as a continuum, ranging from integration to segmentation.
- Integration poses more challenges with setting boundaries compared to segmentation.
- Findings balance between integration and protection is key.
- Setting boundaries based on interfering with feelings of generosity and avoiding martyrdom.
- Burnout does not have clear markers and is often confused with depression.
- Burnout can affect various aspects of a person’s life, not just limited to work.
- It exacerbates existing weaknesses in physical and mental health, intensifying symptoms.
- Burnout impacts the ability to experience positive moments.
Core 3 symptoms of Burn-out
All three of them have to be present for somebody to say that it is burnout
- Physical and emotional exhaustion
- cynicism and detachment
- Lack of productivity/ Feeling like what you do is useless
Understanding the Mind-Body Connection:
- The concept of locus of control is discussed, referring to stress and its relationship with control over situations.
- Chronic stress leads to the shrinking of the prefrontal cortex, resulting in a decline in brain volume and functioning.
- Overactive amygdala and lack of communication with the prefrontal cortex cause difficulty managing emotions and treating others poorly.
The Power of Resentment:
- Resentment can be used as a tool to identify boundaries being crossed or overstepped for people-pleasing.
Addressing Burnout and Resentment:
- The impact of adverse childhood experiences on brain development and susceptibility to burnout is discussed.
- The role of mindset shift in overcoming burnout is highlighted, with acknowledgment of potential challenges.
- The use of a resentment journal and the “Questions IF” technique is suggested to identify patterns and sources of resentment.
- Setting boundaries, aligning with personal values, and addressing anxious attachment and codependency are crucial for recovery.
Interesting facts about Cait Donovan:
“What the Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel van der Kolk.
Favorite painter or photographer?
Georgia O’Keeffe is her favorite painter.
Gabor Mate, although he’s not typically known as a philosopher.
Favorite TV series?
Time travel preference:
Back in time to talk to grandmother
Preferred living location other than current:
Alternative career choice:
One piece of advice for the world:
“Burnout is not your fault; give yourself some grace.”
– Cait Donovan